When you first get engaged, you probably have a vision of your perfect wedding in your head. Wedding planning can be one of the most fun and exciting times in your life! But while you may feel pretty and special, you may be surprised to discover another emotion about planning your wedding: stress! While wedding preparation stress is common, that doesn’t mean it’s completely unavoidable, at least to a certain degree.
Here’s how you can try to keep it under control:
1. Determine your budget
Weddings can be expensive, and the costs add up really quickly, so it’s important to set your budget limit in advance. Prioritize your absolute must-haves first, and allocate the rest of your budget on smaller details. Don’t get caught up in what you “should” have; figure out details that will fit into your budget. This will save you so much stress, and help you to truly enjoy and appreciate your special day. You can still have a beautiful wedding even on a limited budget.
2. Make it manageable
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the many tasks involved in planning a wedding, but it will seem a lot more manageable if you break it down into a series of smaller steps and create a plan for what needs to be done and when. Create this plan right at the very beginning. Be thorough with your planning, and follow the steps along the way; doing so will save you stress and frustration along the way.
3. Make time for exercise
When you’re busy with your regular job and planning a wedding at the same time, it can be easy to put your health on the back burner. But when you do that, you can become ill and rundown very quickly. Take time to eat well, get enough sleep and make regular time for relaxation and fun.
Like most brides, you probably want to be in the best possible shape for your wedding. Fortunately, establishing or maintaining an exercise routine even while you’re busy planning the wedding has the extra benefit of helping you to reduce stress, too. So, find a type of exercise that you enjoy, and work it into your schedule at least once a week. See the results add up as your dress continues to fit better, and as you feel your stress melt away.
4. Clear your head
Taking time to clear your head can really help you deal with the headaches and worries involved in planning a wedding. Whether you choose to meditate, write in a journal, do yoga, participate in a religious practice, or even just take some time each day to enjoy nature, taking time to relax is a must.
5. Set a no-planning zone
You may start to feel more stressed and unhappy if you never give yourself a break from talking about and planning the wedding. While you definitely need to make time to get everything done, your life can’t be all about the wedding 24/7. Set aside specific times during the week to discuss and work on wedding plans, but make sure that you have plenty of time when you’re not discussing it, too.
6. Connect with your fiance
Remember to make time for your fiance! The hectic process of planning a wedding can make it easy to lose sight of this person you love. Scheduling date nights and time to touch base with each other will help your relationship stay strong. It will help you get some much needed breaks from the stress of planning your wedding, and it will help you to reconnect with your favorite person.
7. Let go
Your wedding is important, but it’s still only one day in your life. A lot of brides-to-be get caught up in wanting everything about their special day to be absolutely perfect, but this can be really difficult to achieve. Let go of the need for perfection in every little detail. Most guests won’t notice the little details, and they’re probably not the aspects of your wedding day that you’ll remember. Just remember the true importance of the day: you are taking the next step in spending the rest of your life with your best friend! Keep your focus on that. That way, even if your cake falls apart, your hair isn’t perfect, or there is drama between your bridesmaids, you will still be happy with your day.
8. Ask for help
Your bridesmaids, fiance, and family members are all resources you can depend on for help during the planning stages. Whether you choose to delegate small tasks like making place cards to them or just lean on them for emotional support, your friends and loved ones want to be there for you. Take them up on it.
9. Get help from the professionals
It’s not just your friends and family that can help you out with planning and preparing for your wedding. Don’t forget that there are wedding planning professionals that can help take off quite a bit of the load from you. Whether you choose to hire a wedding planner to plan the entire shindig for you, or you find a wedding or convention center that will provide the perfect atmosphere for your special day (and sometimes even some great discounts on things like catering and photography), getting some sort of professionals’ help could mean the difference between you being a frazzled or a glowing bride come your wedding day.
On top of that, make sure to take advantage of other resources to help you come up with ideas for your wedding. You don’t have to come up with all of the ideas out of thin air! Don’t try to recreate the wheel; instead utilize other peoples’ ideas, combining different elements to create your own unique dream wedding. Websites like Pinterest, Facebook, and even simple Google searches can all give you a wealth of ideas to draw from. There are even several sites completely centered on wedding planning. Check out theknot.com, projectwedding.com, and marthastewartweddings.com to get your planning started.
10. Pamper yourself!
Give yourself the gift of a relaxing massage or day at the spa. Letting yourself relax and unwind will melt stress away while making you feel beautiful.
Nicole is a blogger for the wedding industry. She recently got married and had her dream reception at Moondyne Convention center.